I think this is what the end of days looks like. Seriously what is up with OZ? It just gets stranger and stranger down here. The same day there was golf-sized hail and two earthquakes in different parts of the country.
The dust has lifted but the trees are blowin’ in the gale force winds. It is a pretty freaky feeling. I can feel it in my knees (haha).
Check out these photos and this story and then you will understand what I am talkin’ about.
I am learning a whole lot about public health care over here. It is not like I am doing some down and dirty undercover investigating, I am actually living it because last Sunday 9/13/09, or if you are from Oz 13/09/09, I broke my kneecap in at least three different places. I wish I had the x-ray for you all, maybe when I start my physio therapy, I can ask the doctor and snap a picture of it. I don’t want to look at it at the time of the incident because I got this thing about bones breaking and knitting back together-saw a picture in a science book once in high school and seriously it disturbed me. Can’t get the image out of my mind and now I must visualize it so it will heal faster (I mean that’s what Oprah says).
It is such bad timing, because a few days later I was supposed to go to NYC to see my two best friends get married in two separate weddings, not to each other…so it was a big deal to miss that. It is also a long trip. Dan was gonna stay home to work and Ramona and I were going to go on our first International plane ride, alone. And I was nervous about it, but really looking forward to going back to NYC for three weeks and seeing family and friends after being here for 4 1/2 months. I even asked Dan, “If people ask me how I like Australia can I say I am not that into it?” and he was like sure, because it’s true.
Yes I have been a bit depressed in Oz. I mean there are great things, the weather is getting nicer, HEALTH CARE, the ocean views, gorgeous flowers/bush, beautiful tree house to live in RENT FREE, our cat Sparrow, happy bub, etc… but we are living in the ‘burbs in a VERY conservative neighborhood too. This is an ad in the local North Shore paper, my new ‘hood. need I say more?
I can’t even find the words to describe it people, not-one-word.
Motherhood can be very isolating on it’s own despite being in a new place. At first I had no car to drive, and then when we got one, it broke down. But I did get it back before my accident which was nice for the fleeting moment when I was mobile. The break is on my right leg so no more ‘crusin’ in Bluey Sparklepaints for me (Kate, Dan’s mom, drove it down 12hrs from Brisbane so I could have it)! And this winter we had the flu three times!!! And it was cold and rainy and wow that electric bill! And of course missing my support system. I know I know poor me…
I always thought of myself as a lucky person until now…guess the luck ran out. Mercury is in retrograde people Sept. 15-23. Sept. 17th being the worst of it (and it was, but more on that later..) But there are good things too. Dan and Ramona are safe. I was lucky enough to not be holding her when I fell. And speaking of Ramona, she is growing up so fast! She just turned 8mths and is clapping, saying dada, talking alot, crawling, lifting herself to stand, playing ball-seriously she throws it back to you, and just being all around the best baby ever! And Dan has really been the best Dad and husband EVER. He is really good at caring for her which is making me think I should go out and get the full-time job. Things that make you go hmmm…
I mean in NYC we have a sweet little apartment, but we recently had lots of unexpected expenses to deal with as well. We had to redo our kitchen from Oz because the oven door fell on our tenant while it was 400 degrees Fahrenheit that’s 204 Celsius ! And then the counter had to be ripped up and tiles redone because our new stove would not fit. So I renovated my kitchen from overseas. Luckily they did not sue us!
Before:
After:
I am not saying we had it all golden over there either. Dan would have had to work non-stop and could not even think of going to school and I would have had to put Ramona in daycare much earlier and go back to work to pay off school loans and get family health care. And what would I be getting a job doing? I don’t know. The recession hit NYC a bit harder then here. Also my friends would be working during the day so they could not hang with me and Ramona anyway,but they would be there, on call, if needed. And it is familiar.
So I can’t get it out of my head. Was I too negative lately about being here? Did this happen because I don’t believe in THE SECRET? You know the book written by an AUSTRALIAN that has all the middle-class women in Oprah’s viewing audience saying positive mantras and believing in the laws of attraction? Check out the intro video for THE SECRET it is seriously beyond anything you can imagine and I should be turned into a MUSICAL!
I think this is coming about because when I was in hospital I saw an Oprah episode about vision boards and visualizing the life you want. Did I make this happen to me?
I know, I am so lame, but I am also on oxycodone so I have an excuse. I am not myself and I don’t think I have been for months. It was really hard to move away from everything that was comfortable to somewhere so similar in many ways but different, and so far away! Also with a three month old and no jobs-what were we thinking? Things were looking up Dan just got FULL-TIME WORK this month UNTIL I broke my kneecap. Then he had to quit his job to be me and Ramona’s full time carer. And yes we are lucky it happened here, since my medical bills will be close to zero, and we can get assistance for the job loss. I mean we are really working the social services up in here! But when are we going to be able to “stand on our own two feet” so to speak (obviously not for awhile for me!).
I am aware that going to NYC and coming back after seeing everyone was going to be hard. Maybe there is a reason why I need to stay here for now. Oh why do I always need to find meaning in all this?
Well the night of the accident I was finally going out for the FIRST TIME without Dan or Ramona. I met a lovely person that just moved back from being in LA for seven years on the train. She misses fish tacos and even wrote up a business plan for a taco stand (just like us!), and has two kids, and lives in the neighborhood next to ours. And get this people her husband is from TRENTON, NJ and has a blog about living in Australia at http://expatsinoz.blogspot.com. You gots to check it out because he touches on some things I observed as well and he loves TURKEY BACON and anyone who knows me, knows, I got a thing for turkey bacon.
So, hello? How lucky could I be? Well, we were just starting our evening, just walking down the street to have a drink before the movie and BAM, I fell, just slipped in these flat slippery shoes I never wear because well they are slippery! And I came down HARD on my kneecap. Wish the story was more exciting, like I had a hit on me from the old country (old country meaning Jersey) but this is how it happened people. Just like that. One day you are miserable about living in Oz, next you feel a bit better because you met a new friend and going to NYC, and then the next minute you are on the sidewalk and a drunk from the local pub is TOUCHING your knee saying “It’s not broken, you would be in a lot of pain if it was” ahh thanks random lady who is not a nurse/doctor…now stop touchin’ my knee!
Anyway, my friend was great and I seriously was not in too much pain-because after surgery I found out what pain really was! We got an ambulance. And everyone asked if it was okay to cut off my jeans. You see jeans here are like a gazillion times more than what you pay in the states. I have seen a pair of LEE jeans, yes LEE jeans for $200 AUD! Whaat? And whaat? and of course I was going to NYC to buy clothes and get more jeans…but I was like “yeah cut my black LEVI’S ’cause I can get more people, I am from the United States of America!!!”
At the ER, a nurse took one look and was like “it is so broken”. He pointed out that my kneecap had traveled up a bit-thanks for pointing that out! GR-OOO-SS! He said that all the ladies working the ER wanted someone to break a bone tonite because the orthopedic surgeon is hot. AHHH thanks for collectively visualizing ladies because you have been watching Oprah and THE SECRET-because here I am! Then I was wheeled into x-ray.
Didn’t have to wait too long until someone told me it was broken and the surgeon would see me soon. He came, not my type of hot, like was I expecting Johnny Depp or something? Yes, yes, I was. He was more like a ken doll. He was nice though and told me it was broken in at least three different places and there would have to be surgery and in 20 yrs I would have arthritis but otherwise be fine. Also I was not allowed to eat or drink because they did not know when surgery would be. The thing is I am breastfeeding and a breastfeeding mama needs to be hydrated and worry about what drugs she is taking. So we talked about it and I got my liquids through a drip. Dan came in I snuggled with Ramona and we sort of laughed about it all.
Next morning more doctors came around and the the main dude told me. “It is a bit of a mess down there and if we can’t save the pieces we will just take out the kneecap so you can have more flexibility.” And I was like huh? Is this what you do in public health care? I mean I am not reading any medical journals over here so is this kneecap removal real? I was really hoping it wasn’t. More flexibility? But what would it look like? I asked if they were the top professionals in their field. He sort of smiled and shook his head and left. Oh American humor!
That afternoon I was moved from ER into the public side of the hospital to the Orthopedic ward. With private health care you get your own room. In the States with healthcare you share a room. To get a private room you pay on top of what you already shell out a month. So in the States my health care was about $556 a month for me as an individual through COBRA and about $20 per office visit. When I gave birth and got a private room it was $500 a night on top of all that. Here you see a GP, it is about $60 a visit whether you have medicare or private health care. But for a family of three private health care is about $200 AUD a month at the most-top of the line type of care. With medicare we pay close to nothing, nada, I will scan the bill if and when I get one. Notice the difference?
So I had three other woman in my room. Average age 85. At least I had a view. All night long I heard a guy from down the hall yelling, “HELP” over and over and a woman in my room asking for a bedpan not knowing if they took it out or she needed it. She was a bit confused. It was a busy place and the night nurses had it the worst. Not enough people to cover. I know this because I had to use a bedpan, which is pretty humiliating enough as is, but then the nurse didn’t come back for over 20min! It was a very low point in my recovery…
I did not get into surgery until two days after the accident. They scheduled me for midnight the night before, but canceled. Which was probably a good thing. I mean who wants a tired doctor trying to put together your mess of a knee anyway? But then again I had only the IV to keep me standing and my blood sugar was low, dehydration was setting in and I was feeling like an animal caught in a trap about to eat there own leg off to survive. When they canceled I got four hours to stuff my face. It was not a pretty sight to be behold.
All the while Dan would come in each morning with Ramona, I would breastfed, we’d hang and overhear social workers telling patients they needed to go into a home because their kids wouldn’t visit. You know the routine depressing hospital stuff. FYI: Children, take care of your parents when they get old OR make sure you have a plan in place if something happens.
By early afternoon the next day I get called down to “Theatre”. That is what the operating room is called here. I was like “Make-up!”. So I go down, meet some nice anesthesiologists and get put under. I wake up a couple hours later in recovery with a sore knee. I feel okay until midnight when the local wears off and I feel the FULL ON pain of what it is like to bust your kneecap. There were tears, and morphine, and tears, and sweating and little old ladies coming into my room and telling me I was in their bed. I wasn’t even hallucinating that last bit. This little old lady really did keep coming in and almost tried to get into bed with me…and I thought I was out of it!
The next day more pain, more morphine, friends visiting, breast pumping, Dan’s mom helping out, and did I say more pain? I did go through labor for 12hrs with no pain killers and people THIS IS WORSE. At this point I still had no idea if I had a kneecap.
On Sept. 17th 2009, The doctors came around and said they were happy with the surgery and were able to piece together the knee with wire. Yeah kneecap saved! He said the little bits they found, they just threw away. Yeah right I am sure there are growing a human from it! Anyways, GR-OOO-SS!! So, they told me I would be in this brace with my leg straight for two weeks, then physical therapy to bend my knee, a new brace for another four weeks and then more therapy. I will be all healed about in about three months total. And then I was discharged.
It is now time to pop some more pills so I’ll continue this later.
NEXT POST: How I got into the car to go home or how I broke down in tears in front of everyone at the hospital because I couldn’t get into the car.
Watching TV and a newsreader came on and said, ” The shocking statistics that show Australia is headed for a Dementia Epidemic”. (pause) huh? I have to process this doozy, more thoughts on this later…
We just got our heating bill and boy it was a doozy! It caused me to exclaim, “I am never using electricity again!” but how will I update my blog rubbing two sticks together? Ahh ever heard of bush fires? So instead I turned the computer back on.
So here we are blasting the heaters all winter and supposedly it was the warmest winter ever for Australia. Well I was cold godamnit! And I swear Ramona’s feet were turning blue, so I have no idea what these “experts” are talking about.
click here for article about warm winter
And they say we have had low rainfall? Maybe headed for another drought? What about when we moved here and it rained for the first two months non-stop? Are these scientists calling me a liar?
Well, I am sure we contributed to this in some way (with our love of everything electrical) and to think I was co-founder of my high school’s environmental club! For shame!
More Dinosaurs found in Australia!
And what did we find in our office the other day hanging out above the computer? A huntsman spider. Supposedly they eat other spiders and their bite ain’t so bad. But look at the size of it!
Denise: I know a lot of you have been waiting with baited breath for the next intergenerational blogging post with Joansie, so here it is at long last! We have been trying to write this masterpiece since 9am this morning, it is now after 2pm.
Ramona is like, “I’ve been eating solids, screetching at the top of my lungs, lounging on my side, sitting up, waving hello, cutting a couple of teeth and trying to crawl over here and you can’t write one god damn blog post! Pa-ah-lease!”
So where were we when we left off? Ahh yes Barry and Dan were gonna write something-well that ain’t happening since Dan is working and Barry is working on yet another nap so let’s move on…
First off, the Taronga Zoo in Sydney is da’ bomb. I don’t know what everyone’s stance is on zoos I sort of have a love/hate thing going on with them sorta like my feelings for Disneyworld. Hate Disney. Love Pirates of the Caribbean. So I was really surprised at how much I liked the zoo. Gorgeous views of Sydney Harbour and the animals didn’t look like they wanted to eat their own leg off to escape. I think it is my favorite tourist spot so far.
Notice anything about the picture of Joansie and the Pelican? They are the same size!
Then we all packed our things and headed to Brisbane in our new used car Bluey Sparklepants. First day we stoppped in Coff’s Harbour near the Big Banana, which is after the Big Misquito and before the Big Prawn. That is the other thing about Australia, their love for big things and paper mache. Coff’s Harbour about a 5-6hr drive from Sydney. Joansie and Barry loved the place we stayed for the night because it looked like Disneyworld and had a lovely view of the ocean.
The thing about my parents is…if they can compare anything to Florida it is the tops.
So this was the first time we saw the ocean since our 6 hour trip up the Pacific Highway, which is the highway going up the coast. You would think you would see the ocean on a road with the name of the said ocean in its title but for some reason that doesn’t happen. Dad was constantly commenting on it the whole ride up.
I was excited about this trip because finally I got to drive on the open road, a rare treat, until…
The next day, while driving, I felt that something was off. The car was not accelerating correctly and coolant was leaking. We got into Brisbane and it just about broke down. FYI: Never ever get a used new car in Sydney from a dude named (blank) at (blank) . We had to leave it in Brisbane to get the cracked head (ie engine) fixed and won’t have it for another couple of weeks. Dan will have to fly up and get it and drive 12 hrs back to Sydney. Yeah us!
Okay in Brisbane we went to a lot of places. It reminded them of Florida so of course they enjoyed themselves. I am getting tired so I am gonna let your favorite gray-haired midwestern lady to take over.
Joansie: We loved Brisbane. It reminded us of LBK (Long Boat Key, Florida) in the winter. Barry is ready to settle on the South Bank of the Brisbane River. It has all that he needs…cafes, grocery store, movie house, museums. We celebrated his 68th birthday by going on a river cruise, having lunch at an Indonesian restaurant, and eating Pavlova at Kate and Blake’s house. The whale watch trip had been canceled due to high seas. After a week we parted company…..D,D, and R flew back to Sydney while B and J continued their journey north by flying to Cairns.
Denise: Joan took a picture of a 150 million years old plant because dinosaurs used to eat it, she kills me!
Joansie: Since our destination was actually Port Douglas, about 45 min. north of Cairns, we took a shuttle bus there. Port Douglas was even more like LBK….weather, palms, shops, restaurants, and ocean. We became real tourists…..taking a tour to the Great Barrier Reef (fabulous!), and two others to the rain forest (also fabulous) At the end of another week, we flew back to D, D, and R in Turramurra.
Denise: Like I said it reminded them of Florida..So now we are finishing our week long vacay at Tamarama Beach in a place called Retrotama. Retrotama is a two bedroom apartment that looks out onto the Pacific Ocean and is decorated like the 1950s. We are in a time warp but it is pleasant. Except it is at the very top of a very big hill and Barry hasn’t left since we got here.
What can I say to finally wrap this up? One: I have not learned anything from honeymooning with my parents because yet again I find myself in an apartment with them 24/7-interesting. Vacationing with them is sorta like how I feel about Disney and zoos. Love them being here and spending time with Ramona, but don’t wanna live with them. I am sure they feel the same way. Actually, I know they do because Joansie just said it to me this morning.
DENISE: My parents are visiting for a month, so me and my moms (Joansie) are gonna blog it out. You can compare my true and realistic documentary reporting and her embellished stories…She is watching me write this so you know I am being totally sarcastic and she is like “Denise” and I am like hahaha. Just then Joansie was laughing so hard that my father (Barry) just woke up from his 50th nap and asked, ” What are you guys doing?” and she said, “We are BLOGGING!” Ahh obviously…
They arrived Thursday July 30th, 2009 on Air Pacific from Fiji. They took like five planes to get here ’cause my father used his frequent flyer miles, he has like a gazillion, and he booked this trip about 7mths ago before we even knew we were moving. I thought they would be tired but they looked rested (that is what happens when you travel in biz class people…I would not know.)
So we showed them our digs, dropped off the baggage and headed to Bobbin Head National Park (down the road a bit) for lunch and a brief walk through the mangroves. Went home, rested, and Dan made meat (lamb) on the Barbie for us-first time cooking meat unassisted. Joansie says “It was fab”.
Next day we headed to Palm Beach for a bit of lunch and a little stroll on the beach. Moms thought the water was a bit chilly on her toesies.
We then went to the mall to get mani/pedis Dan decided not to participate, but Barry did.
Today Dan and I went to buy our new used car-A blue 1995 Toyota Camry. And you know how much I love me up those Toyota Camrys! (I will miss Goldie! 2001 Camry xle-that is a EXTRA Limited Edition mmkay?) this one is not.
This means freedom for me, finally I have a way out of the ‘burbs!
Meanwhile, Mom and Dad went to the Opera House and took a tour for like five hours
sorry I missed it…’nt! ” ( ‘nt means “not” in this country. You say it after something you are negating for example, “I like to go car shopping ‘nt”). My mother thinks this is too crazy for her friends to read so I am gonna sign off and let her write a bit.
Okay….Joansie is laughing too hard right now to write. FYIphone she is correcting my grammar and spelling as I type. Now Joansie is taking over because Ramona is losing her mindhole and I have to give her some boob.
JOANSIE: Must say that Ramona is usually very good and happy most of the time. It did not take too long for her to get used to us. Verbally, she is busy giving raspberries and gurgling. Physically, she is working on crawling, but can only worm backwards or turn in a circle or roll over.
The winter here is like spring in NJ or winter in LBK. The sky is clear and it is a bit chilly, with a breeze. It does get dark early.
Dan and Denise’s house is very contemporary, with lots of large windows looking over “the bush” in the backyard. It is like being in the tree canopy. So far I have seen a cockatoo and a lorikeet in the backyard. However, Denise has threatened that I might see possums and deadly spiders!!
DENISE: Ph-ha-lease! Threatening? I am just telling her what is what you know? Doesn’t she know I am HELPING her? Now I am gonna load up some pictures and take this blog post to the “next level”. Mom says, “You are not gonna erase any of the pictures on my camera are you?”
Intergenerational blogging is not all its cracked up to be.
Next post: Barry and Dan eat Yum Cha and Ramona’s first trip to THE ZOO!!!
For a whole freakin’ month! Ramona is gonna be so psyched. I wonder if she will recognize them from skype or remember them from 3 months ago? I mean what goes on in her little mindhole anyways?
We are busy cleaning the house and making things nice for the visit. I think the zoo is in order now that Ramona is old enough to get excited about animals-she loves that Sparrow. And I need to see the new baby elephant. Then to the beach, check out some bays, and cool neighborhoods. Let the ‘rents pamper the DRG a bit…We have to then buy a used automatic car for the trip to Brisbane (renting is ridiculous we can buy a freakin’ used car for the same price!!!). See Dan’s family for a week and head out to sea and catch some whale migration up in here for Barry’s birthday. Then they head to Port Douglas to see the reef and we are home and to screen Metal Kingdom to the Sydney peeps. Dan and are starting a monthly screening series about media and social movements called Stinger Sessions. Then ma and paw come back and we all live at the beach for a week! Whew. I am gonna be tired! Photos to come you know I am gonna be documenting this insanity. It may be even more interesting then honeymooning with them…and that was a whole other story…
Some photos of Sparrow and Ramona “bonding”
Our America’s Funniest Home Video moment. Around 2 min and 43 secs in is where the magic happens.
Doesn’t she look all Evil Knievel in her pjpjayjays? Like she is gonna be shot out of a cannon or something?
